Friendship Center Adult Day Care Center in Santa Barbara — The Friendly Finch: June

Dear Families & Friends,

I’d like to share a story about one of the many special individuals who attended Friendship Center a few years ago and her daughter, Leah.

A single mom herself, Leah was caring for her daughter (a single mom too), her granddaughter, her sister with physical impairments, and her mother, who had recently been diagnosed with Alzheimer’s. The doctor told Leah that her mom’s diagnosis came with a two-year prognosis.

But, like so many Alzheimer’s journeys, the road was longer (over seven years) and far more complex than anyone expected. She was neither emotionally, or financially, prepared to support even the initial prognosis of her mom’s condition. Hiring care for her mom wasn’t a viable option and she was not able to take time off or work, as she had four dependents, each with unique needs to support. Her daughter, therefore, had to drop out of SBCC to stay home with her grandmother, though the isolation got to them both.

It wasn’t until a year and a half into her mom’s diagnosis that Leah found Friendship Center.

“This place is stunning,” Leah said. “Mom’s sense of humor was appreciated here. People laughed at her jokes. They got more inappropriate over time but she always had an audience. She always felt special, you could see it every time we picked her up. It was impossible to not feel good seeing her like that, even with everything else going on.”

There aren’t many things a family like Leah can control in a journey like this. Not the timeline. Not the disease. Not the rising cost of care. But they could control one thing: her mother’s happiness.

Every morning, Leah could drop off her mother knowing someone would greet her with warmth, laugh at her wildest punchlines, pat her well-earned ego, and treat her with the love and dignity she deserves as a great-grandmother, a matriarch, and a woman of Santa Barbara.

This spring, we are working to raise $50,000 so we can keep saying “yes” to families like Leah’s. Right now, we’re 58% of the way there—with one month left to go.

If you’ve already given, thank you. If you haven’t yet, this is the moment. Your gift will directly support older adults living with dementia and their caregivers who are doing the impossible, every single day.

Please help us reach our goal. Because every family deserves support, and every comedian deserves an audience.

With gratitude,

Kathryn Westland,

MPH  Executive Director / Comedy Lover

? Did you know many employers will match your donation to Friendship Center? ?

That means your gift could go twice as far! Check with your HR department to see if your company matches charitable donations, then follow their process to request the match.

Do you or does someone you know work for one of these businesses that offer gift matching?

Adobe

Apple

Amgen

Bank of America

Best Buy

Charles Schwab

Costco

Deckers Brands

Disney

Edison International

Home Depot

Levi Strauss & Co.

LinkedIn

Montecito Bank & Trust

NBCUniversal

Netflix

Paramount

Patagonia

Salesforce

Starbucks

Target

Visa

Wells Fargo

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Need help? We are happy to assist! Email me anytime at kathryn@fcsb.org

*Information Needed for Matching Gifts*

Legal Name: Friendship Adult Day Care Center Inc.

Tax ID (EIN): 95-3140667

Address: 89 Eucalyptus Lane, Santa Barbara, CA 93108

Contact: Kathryn Westland, Executive Director – kathryn@fcsb.org | 805-969-0859

Nonprofit Status: 501(c)(3) charitable organization

In this edition of the Friendly Finch…

  • Key Dates
  • Program Activities
  • Dear Dolly
  • Opportunities for Involvement
  • May Moments
  • Meet Our Staff
  • Friendship Center in the News
  • Caregiver Support
  • Articles & Videos of Interest
  • Remembering Our Friends
  • Legacy & Leadership

KEY DATES

  • May 14th – June 30th: Bee a Friend ? Friendship Center Spring Appeal
  • June 5th: Hands Across Montecito Community Event (RSVP)
  • June 5th – July 2nd: Nominate Us for Best Senior Care in Santa Barbara (NOMINATE US)
  • June 10th & 17th: Advance Care Planning Sessions at Friendship Center (REGISTER)
  • June 12th: J. McLaughlin Montecito Shop & Sip – 10% of Sales are Donated to Friendship Center!
  • June 21-22nd: Friendship Center @ Summer Solstice Festival
  • June 18th: Coffee for Caregivers
  • June 19th: Friendship Center Closes @ 3:00pm (third Thursday of every month)
  • June 28th: Friendship Center in Carpinteria’s Independence Day Parade
  • July 4th: Friendship Center Closed
  • July 18th: Friendship Center Exclusive Polo Event Celebrating our People and Purpose

SAVE THE DATE for Friendship Center’s Fall Fundraiser on

Friday, October 24, 2025

Program Activities

Montecito Day Program Activity Calendar

Connections Group

Guest Speaker Series Topics:

  • Thursday 6/5: Bob Burtness on Califonia History – History of License Plates
  • Tuesday 6/10: Robin Cederloff on History of Main – Begg Farmhouse
  • Thursday 6/12: Dana Vandermey on Laughter Jest for the Health of it
  • Tuesday 6/17: Gil Garcia on Awareness of Emotional, Mental, and Spiritual Identities
  • Thursday 6/19: Fr. Israel Anchan on India, Traditions, History, Religion, and Food
  • Tuesday 6/24: Jeff Garfinkle on Mars and Saturn
  • Thursday 6/26: Austin Sharon on Pilgrim Terrace Farm – Table Food

Would you like to share a story or topic of interest with our group?

Contact Nerely at programmanager@friendshipcentersb.org

Remember Dear Abby?

Let us now introduce…… Dear Dolly: Friendship Center’s own advice column, answering your questions with the wit and wisdom from the over 10,000 collective years lived by our members (“Dolly” is all of our members!).

Each month, we invite you to submit anonymous life questions or situational quandaries to be answered with the sagacious, sweet, and sometimes silly guidance of our dearest “Dolly” .

Opportunities for Involvement

Call for volunteers to represent Friendship Center!

For the first time, Friendship Center will be in Carpinteria’s Independence Day Parade on June 28th. We would love for you to join us in order to represent Friendship Center!

Would you like to participate in an opportunity for involvement?

Contact Justine at events@friendshipcentersb.org

May Memories

Meet Our Staff

Fred Ryan

Fun Facts About Fred

Favorite Food: Cheeseburger

Favorite Thing to Cook: Italian Food

Farthest Place Traveled: Japan

Fred is one of Friendship Center’s newest staff editions and was hired as the Kitchen Manager. Fred grew up in Philadelphia, living many places, such as Boston, New York, and Seattle, before recently settling in Carpinteria. Fred attended culinary school in Boston which led him to careers in fine dining, restaurant consulting and being a private chef.

When asked what Fred likes most about working at Friendship Center he shares, “I love getting to know the members and the stories they come here with and it’s also fulfilling to see members coming to The Center, having a good time.”

We are beyond pleased to have Fred on our team and always enjoy his good food and great company. He is already loved and getting compliments from members, caregivers, and staff about the incredible items he is stirring up in the kitchen.

Friendship Center in the News

The Independent

Mother’s Day Treats 2025

KEYT

Veterans get Multiple Services in One Location During a Special ‘Stand Down’ Day

Edhat

Dancing Through the Decades: Friendship Center Hosts Joyful Senior Prom for Older Adults Living with Dementia

Noozhawk

Friendship Center Senior Prom Brings Back Melodies and Memories

KEYT

Friendship Center Launches Essential Transportation for Friends Living with Dementia

The Independent

Chalk and Community at the Mission Memorial Day Weekend

The Montecito Journal

Friendship Center Montecito Spring Appeal

Coastal View News

Rotary Meets with Friendship Center Leaders

Caregiver Support

Check out Friendship Center’s virtual Dementia Dementia Resource HubHub

Lewy Body Dementia: Navigating Diagnosis, Care Strategies, and Essential Support – July 9, 2025 – Click to Register

Saturday, June 14; Attend in person or online – Click to Register

Articles & Videos of Interest

Alzheimer’s Association Statement on First Blood Test Used in Diagnosing Alzheimer’s Disease Cleared for use by FDA

The U.S. Food and Drug Administration (FDA) has cleared the first blood test to aid in diagnosis of Alzheimer’s disease. The test detects amyloid plaques, a hallmark of Alzheimer’s disease, through a blood draw, making it less invasive than other more commonly used diagnostic tools. Read on to learn more.

In honor of our beloved Tom’s passing last month, view one of his many compelling lectures:
Investing in Relationships Builds Resilience for Dementia Caregivers, Study Finds

Researchers find that positive relationships between caregivers and their family members can improve the caregivers’ experience after the onset of dementia in their loved one. Read on to learn more.

Remembering Our Friends

Tom Scheff

08.01.1929 – 05.23.2025

Leave Your Legacy

Including Friendship Center in your will or estate plan is a powerful way to honor the memory of a loved one and ensure our work continues for generations.

We were honored to host members of our Legacy Society for a beautiful spring luncheon on May 28th.

To learn more, contact our

Legacy Liaison, Heidi Holly, at legacy@friendshipcentersb.org.

Thank you for continuing to support Friendship Center, as a member of our family, an advocate of our mission, or a generous benefactor helping to keep our programs going strong.

Our Spring Appeal is essential to sustaining the care and connection we provide every day, and we truly need your help to meet our $50,000 goal.

We are honored to spend our days with some of the finest folks you’ll ever meet, and we invite you to stop by anytime to see the impact of your support in action.

Friendship Center Leadership & Partnerships

Officers

President

CYNDER SINCLAIR

Vice President

JOE WHEATLEY

Secretary

ZANDRA CHOLMONDELEY

Treasurer

JEFFREY KRUTZSCH

Member-at-large

JACQUELINE DURAN

Directors

VIVIAN ARMANIOUS

NATHAN BERO

MARTI CORREA DE GARCIA

PAT FORGEY

GRETCHEN HEWLETT

GERRIE SHAPIRO

STEPHEN SHARPE

MONICA VIDGER-TRENT

Executive Director

KATHRYN WESTLAND, MPH

Friendship Center | 805-969-0859 | Annual Report| friendshipcentersb.org

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